When you look in the mirror, do you see this?
Some do. Including myself. And it can be hard to handle. For most women, we don’t see the actual, true reflection. Instead, we see a more worse-off image of ourselves. We see the messy hair, the pudge around our waists, the wrinkled skin…the list goes on! But why? Why do we do this to ourselves? The question is so individual, that only we can answer that for ourselves.
For me, the answer is simple. I’m a perfectionist. I have felt as though I’m never good enough, that I’m cannot compete with some other people around me and yes, that I’m not good enough. But I’ve been able to counteract that with YEARS of personal development and spiritual work. Trust me, those thoughts are not gone, but they are distant a lot more often. And it is still a daily effort to acknowledge myself for what I am.
I challenge you to think about your answer to the question of why we give ourself negative feedback every time we look in the mirror. Do some self-exploration, some meditation and some personal development to learn about yourself to find the answer. And there’s one more thing…
I want you to consider having a daily mantra. When you get dressed in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror before you leave for the day, I want you to say something good.
“I am beautiful.”
“I am strong.”
“I am ready to conquer the day.”
Your mantra is something you create and should be short that you can remember it and repeat it throughout the day. Use your mantra over and over again until you believe it. And I mean REALLY believe it! Once you believe it, make a new mantra for yourself.
Over time, these mantras you create (and the personal development you do) will help you see yourself in a different light. Instead of seeing the messy hair, you’ll see a hardworking mom that hasn’t gotten to shower. Instead of seeing the pudge around your waist, you’ll see beautiful skin. And instead of seeing the wrinkles on your face, you’ll see the laugh lines that have given you amazing memories over the years. Remember, you are beautiful inside and out and you have amazing gifts to share with the world. Love yourself and your love will rub off on everyone you meet.