I Am What You Might Call…Weird…

Weird?  Yup.  That is self-proclaimed too.  Now, you might think two things:

A. She’s crazy!  She looks like she’s got her shit together!

OR

B. I get it.  I’m like her.

If you’re thinking A, well, I’m going to fill you in and trust me…I do not have all my shit together.  If you’re thinking B, I’m glad you’re with me because we’re not alone in this world.

Let’s start with all you A-ers out there.  You may follow me regularly, here or on my social media accounts and see a lot of good things being posted.  Listen, I like to spout positivity because it helps me feel better and I think what I have to share can be of value for some one you.  I’ve got a lot of ideas crammed in this tiny, little head of mine and I’ve gotta get them out.  The thing is, you don’t see a lot of pictures of my messy house, my exhaustingly long work days or what I look like in the morning.  Trust me, you don’t want to see that.  It ain’t pretty.  I may look like I have my shit together but behind the scenes, I’m a hot mess.

For the B-ers, you and I can probably relate on a lot of things.  My bed isn’t made every morning, sometimes I leave dirty dishes in the sink and even sometimes I skip an event because, let’s be honest, I’ve got better things to do.  You get me, right?  We fall into a category that I call weird because we live outside of what others call normal.  We may want things that others don’t want and some of us may even be working hard (like really hard) to follow our dreams and the normal folks don’t understand us.  Us weird people are dreamers.  And trust me, that’s ok.

Now why did I tell want to tell you this story and air my dirty laundry?  Well, I want to be real…like really real…with you.  Part of my story was posted on Insta on Thursday and as I typed out the caption, I started to cry because I realized I was finally beginning to realize that it’s ok to be weird and different and want things you friends and family don’t.  I mean, I tell my husband all the time that I’m the Black Sheep of my family because I want a l life that’s full of freedom, not traveling and being able to make choices not decision.  And sadly, I think I may have lost some friends and family along the way because of my choices.  But yesterday I realized that that’s ok because my Tribe has found me on my path and we’ve locked arms and said “We’re doing this together!”

So if you’re feeling weird, like you’re the Black Sheep of your family and like you’re totally alone, don’t worry…you’re not.  There are tons of people out there that will understand you.  Including me.

Now, let’s all air our hot mess life together!  Comment with your hot mess moment and be proud of it.  Remember, things happen and they happen for a reason.

Sorry…Not Sorry…

We say sorry a lot.  Maybe not all of us out there, but a lot of women say “I’m sorry”…a lot.

I am one of those women that used to say it all the time.  We say it for bumping into someone, when we don’t pass in a project on time, when the look on another person’s face shows we upset them…the list goes on.  I mean, how many things can we say “I’m sorry” for each day?  And how many times do we use that phrase and really mean it?

I still say that phrase from time to time, but more and more I catch myself.  I’ll tell you how I figured out I was using that word a lot and how I stopped myself, but before I do that I want to share a bit more on this dangerous phrase first.

As a woman, we try to people please.  A lot.  And that can mean doing or saying something that someone else might now like.  Now, this is a generality and it can go both way, but how many men do you see saying sorry on a regular basis?  Not many, I bet.  The thing is, being a people pleaser can be a good thing.  But overusing this phrase can be harmful.

Using this phrase too often can make us look like we’re vulnerable, like we are saying it just to say it and like we’re not confident.  I’ve experienced this first hand at work.  I said “I’m sorry” for messing up a situation at work, or so I thought.  And really did mean it.  The problem is, it made me look like I didn’t know how to do my job.  It was a hard reality check, but it’s the exact smack in the face I needed.  Thankfully, it came from someone I’m close to.  But using the phrase too often can be harmful if people are paying attention.

So how did I realize I was saying it too often and how did I fix it?  I listened to myself and made a conscious effort to pay attention to when I said the phrase and what was going on when I said it.  Having context surrounding my use of this phrase was helpful because then I could see if the use of the phrase even fit.  Learning how to fix it was a trickier process.  Which is why I’m going to give you a few tips for changing your behavior surrounding the phrase “I’m sorry”.

Tip #1 – Take a breathe

Before you even go to say the phrase, take a breathe.  Think about what’s happening, why you want to say the phrase and how it will be portrayed.  It’s a lot to think about in a split second, but our brains work fast so I’m sure you can do it.  Taking this breathe will let you gather your thoughts and then continue the conversation.

Tip #2 – Don’t apologize if you’re not really sure why you’re saying it

The majority of the time the phrase “I’m sorry” is used, it’s not even really necessary.  If you’re late to a luncheon with your friends, you don’t necessarily need to use the phrase.  They don’t know why you’re late and may not even be upset that you are.  Or if someone asks you to watch their kids but you can’t because you have plans, the phrase isn’t needed.  It’s not wrong that you already had plans, is it?  You didn’t do anything wrong.  If you’re not sure that using the phrase will fit, it probably doesn’t.

Tip #3 – Don’t say “I’m sorry” just to fill the gap

One thing I hate is that uncomfortable tension gap.  I used to fill that gap with some word or phrase just to cut the tension and make things ok again.  Filling the gap with the phrase “I’m sorry” doesn’t always make sense.  You may be saying it just to take up space and if that’s the case, the words have been wasted and do not really mean anything.

Now that you’ve read this, here’s my challenge for you.  Over the next week, take a note of how many times you say “I’m sorry”.

Is it less than 5?  Is it more than 10?  Is it more than 50?

And in what context are you saying it?  At work?  At home?  With your child’s day care provider?

This challenge is not to make you stressed or upset that you may or may not use the phrase often.  Rather, it’s to help you understand where you can improve.  It’s to help you understand the meaning of the phrase and how to use it better.  Report back and let’s see if we can get you to stop using the phrase “I’m sorry” when it doesn’t fit.  Go get ’em!

An Asthmatic’s Accomplishment

This weekend we’re traveling…again.  But we always try to make it fun.  So we decided to go to Bushkills Falls in Pennsylvania.

We both love hiking and thought it would be a perfect thing to do before we check into our hotel room.  We had never been there before but my husband’s boss said “Go right, there’s less stairs.”  Well, as we’re always up for a challenge, we went left.

Here’s the map of the trails.  Number 3 is the Top of the Main Falls and is pretty much your starting point.  We took the red route.  let me tell you, lots of stairs going down.  But what I didn’t realize until later is that would mean a lot of stairs going up.  As we got to Number 7 – the View of the Lower Gorge – we decided to keep going along this route.  There was a sign that basically said to turn around if you weren’t an experienced hiker.  We consider ourselves fairly experienced so kept going.  This is when I realized I left my Pro Air at home.

Now, this might be an asthmatic’s worst nightmare.  And I’m not going to lie, I was little nervous.  But mind over matter, right?  And I wasn’t going to tell my husband.  I kept going.  There was a part on the Bridal Falls Trail that made me huff and puff a bit, but I went slow and paid attention to my breathing.  “In through the nose and out through the mouth.”  I even had to stop a few times and catch my breath, but I knew I could keep going.  I kept telling myself I could do it.  And if I didn’t keep going, I would have missed out on views like this:

Gorgeous, right?

So what’s the moral to my story?  Being out in nature can make you have a different mindset and having a different mindset can push you to a point that you think you may not have been able to get to.  Another piece of the puzzle is believing in yourself because this is half the battle when it comes to facing something tough.  Despite not having my inhaler with me, I knew there would be a way to counteract my fears and have a great day.

I don’t know how many stairs we climbed, but I know it was a lot.  And at the end of the day, I felt so proud of myself.  For a lot of reasons…

One – I was able to have a successful hike without having an asthma attack.  The focus on my breathing helped tremendously!

Two – I found I didn’t even need my Pro Air.  If you asked me to do a hike without my inhaler 10 year ago, I would have said “No way, Jose”.

Three – I’ve found a way of life where I don’t have to be dependent on medications.  By changing my diet and increasing my physical activity, I’ve been able to find a life where I can live independently.

Sounds easy, right?  Not so much.  It has taken a lot of learning (about myself and how food affects the body), time and patience and encouragement from the members of my tribe.  I’ve gone through a lot of ups and downs too.  But I didn’t, I wouldn’t be in the position I am now.  Ready and willing to take on life, head on!  So asthma-free living, I’m coming for ya, whether you’re ready for me or not.

Find a new way to THINK!

A while back I signed up for Oprah’s Thought for Today newsletter.  This quote came in back in 2013 and made me smile.  It also got me thinking.  In order to make our lives better and find out who we really are (or are going to be), we must change the way we think about things.

Let’s say I’m a “glass half empty” kind of person.  If my whole mindset is that of a pessimist, I will think that everything is going to go wrong.  I’ll think that things will never go the way I want or dream of and life is just going to be stagnant.  And I’m going to be honest, I used to be this way.  When I was young, I went through a major depression and because of this way of thinking.  It took me a very, very long time to to realize that my life is mine to make.

Today, I’m a “glass half full” kind of person.  Today, I see the positive things in life and it helps me push aside the negativity.  I now realize that the world is my oyster and I can take from it what I want and give back to help the world be a better place.  Don’t get me wrong, though, I’m not perfect.  I still have moments when things aren’t going my way and I get sad, or angry, or frustrated.  But I have a great support system around me to help me bounce back.

What this quote should help you realize is that if you want ANYTHING in life, you need to start THINKING differently.  Do not let negativity run your life.  Don’t let it ruin your life either!  One tough moment does not not have to destroy your whole day.  It can hurt or sting, but it will pass.

Your first action…surround yourself with people that will support you and help you see the beauty around you and IN you!  These people will be your tribe and you’ll never want to let them go.  I have a few people that are in my tribe that I cherish dearly and I would be lost without them.

Who do you have in your tribe?  Tell me about them.  I’d love to know how you’re supported day in and day out.

 

Pantry Clean-Out!!!!!

It’s time for a pantry clean-out.  Most people don’t even think about cleaning out their pantry but I had to.  The timing was right for a lot of reasons.  One, I’ve been doing a lot of research lately and I wanted to clean up my diet.  Two, my A-game organization skills were clearly slacking.  And three, I needed to shorten my meal-prep time.  Sounds logical, right?  I thought so too.  So here’s what my pantry looked like before I started.

Looks organized, but trust me, it’s kind of messy.  I tried to place like-foods near each other – breakfast,  snacks, dinner prep, things for a party etc.  This set-up has worked for quite a long time.  Since we’ve moved into this house, really.  The thing I notice when I look at these shelves, though, is that everything is just, put on a shelf.  There really is no organization.  Some things are hidden behind other things, the stuff on the bottom seems to get lost and the foods that I have at eye level may not be the healthiest.  So what did I do?  I literally took everything off the shelves.

Everything was put on the floor so I could go through it all, one item at a time.  This allowed me to get a sense of the space I have available. Doing this took some time, but let me tell you, it was so worth it!  I cannot tell you how much stuff I had that was expired.  Seriously!  I’m talking stuff back to 2015!

After clearing out all the junk and the stuff that was too old to even open, I had to develop a plan.  How was I going to get all my food back on the shelf without it looking like it did before?  I did not want to go back to where I was before and I did not want to have things expiring without me even knowing it.  I knew I needed some help and I knew I needed a few things to help me organize and prep in a way that would work.  Two things immediately came to mind – baskets and snack size bags.  These were the easiest “tools” I could find to help me get e started.

The baskets I got at my local department store for less than $10.  They came in two sizes so I grabbed both.  I didn’t realize it, but I would use them for two different reasons.

The taller, more square baskets I decided I would use for tossing things in.  Prepped foods that would be great for grab-and-go, like granola bars and bagged snacks.  I also used these for putting like-items together, like seasonings.  The shorter, longer baskets I decided I would use more for keeping things together.  Like toppings for my yogurt and salad additions.  Easy peezy!

The other tool I grabbed was snack size Ziploc bags.  The snack size ones.

These I knew would be good for prepping the grab-and-go foods.  I had pretzels, sweet potato and beet chips, sweet potato chips, trail mix and nuts.  Once the snacks were prepped, I tossed them all in one of the taller baskets.

So what did the end result look like?  Well, here it is!  Clean, organized, put together and ready for the taking.  I felt a sense of accomplishment.  I felt at peace.  I felt like I could take on the world.

Ok, no, I’m just kidding.  But I did feel like my life was organized again and like I would be able to eat healthy and not feel guilty about what I’m putting into my body.

If you’re still with me, you probably are wondering if you could do this too.  Trust me, you can.  All you need is some time, some energy and maybe a little bit of money.

This project was definitely something I loved doing and it was fun for me.  If you need help going through this exercise, let’s schedule a meet-up.  I’d be happy to come over and help you do your own pantry clean-out.

 

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Are You Trying?

Do you get asked this question?

It could pertain to anything.  And I think this question comes up for kids more than adults.  When it comes to sports or homework or chores around the house.  But for me, it comes up in a completely different way.

I get asked this question because people want to know if I’m starting a family.  Yup.  I get asked this question on a pretty regular basis.  I’m at an age where a lot of people think it’s strange that I don’t have kids yet.  Growing up in a small town in Massachusetts, it was normal to date, get married and immediately start a family.  However, that was not my path.

Don’t get me wrong, I like kids.  But my husband and I have a 24-hour rule – we an only babysit for 24-hours.  It’s a existing joke, but it’s true.  And we have this rule because we feel, right now, there is a bigger reason for us being on this planet.  If kids are in our future, then they will be in our path eventually.  For us, it’s that simple.  If it’s meant to be, it will be.

Bringing kids into our life is an exciting idea.  It makes us smile.  And we both know that we can be great parents.  But for me, the idea brings on a bit of anxiety.  Ok, a lot of anxiety.  Why?  Because I want to be a great parent.  I want to be there, fully, for my kids.  Right now, I don’t think I can do that.  There are a lot of reasons, but they don’t really need to be explained for the purposes of this post.  What I’m really here to do, is talk about this question.

Asking this question has caused anxiety for me from time to time.  I get anxious because I don’t know how to respond to it.  I also get anxious because because deep down, I question myself.  Sometimes when I get asked this question, I don’t feel like I’m doing enough or like I’m not good enough.  I have even questioned the path I’m on.  I have even thought this question is just as bad as the other side – “Are you pregnant?” But ultimately, every time, I feel stress.  Recently, I’ve come up with a few tips for myself to deal with this stress…to deal with this question.

First and foremost, I need to remember to breathe.  I take a breathe when I’m asked this question because it allows time to think.  I need to think about how I’m going to respond so I don’t fly off the handle.  Depending on who asks me this question, it can come off differently – pushy, rude, aggressive, curious.  And my mood will have a direct correlation to how I respond.  Breathing first helps.

Second, I take it into context.  Is your mom asking this question because she wants grandkids?  Is your friend asking because he/she is curious?  Everything depends on who is asking the question.  The person doing the asking has their own reasons for asking, which I may not know right away.  The context of the conversation will help showcase those reasons.

Lastly, be kind.  I have been in this situation many times and it’s hard to not be kind.  Being asked this question may make you immediately feel defensive.  I know I have felt that way before.  And yes, there have been times when I have responded in a not-so-kind way.  Responding with kindness is easier for everyone in the end.

Despite this question being asked in so many different ways, by so many different people, it’s still a hard question to be asked.  Yes, I want to have kids, but I want to have them on my own terms.  And it has to work for the lifestyle within my family and that means my husband and I.

Moral of my story, if you’re going to ask this question, be considerate to who you’re asking it to.  They may struggle with the answer.  They might feel uncomfortable with the question.  And they might not be in a place where they can even answer.  Your best bet…steer clear of the question.

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So…What’s Up With the Salt?

Literally, what’s up with the salt?!  I’m not talking about table salt.  I’m talking about the pink stuff.  The Himalayan salt that everyone seems to be raving about lately.  I was curious so I recently went to experience it for myself.

I went to visit a dear friend (and true member of my tribe) this past weekend and we decided it might be fun to try out one of the salt caves nearby.  We chose Salt of the Earth, located in Woodburry, Connecticut, mainly because of a Groupon, but hey, it was close and looked cool.  Sadly, I do not have any pictures of the inside because they had a “no phone” policy.  However, I come with me on a journey while I tell you what it was like…

Walk inside and you immediately feel a sense of peace.  There is tranquil music playing, loads of Himalayan salt everywhere and a fish take at the front desk.  Even the bathrooms are gorgeous!  They have an ocean theme, which I love because salt water seems to heal everything for me.  The waiting room has dim lighting, comfortable oversized armchairs and for your feet, an infrared pad.

Let me tell you about this infrared heating pad. It was so amazing!  You take your shoes off, place your feet inside and feel warmth.  The pad emits invisible waves of energy that help the inner tissues, muscles and bones of the body.  I typically have very sore feet and using this bed for even a short period of time helped relax the muscles in my feet and legs.  I almost wanted to use it the entire time I was waiting for my treatment.  Infrared heath therapy also helps improve circulation and eases pain in joints.  After that experience, I’m definitely thinking about getting one!

 

Since we had a Groupon, we received the salt bed treatment.  It’s like a tube that you lay down in.  There is a sheet that is in between you and the salt.  The treatment lasts about 20 minutes and while you’re in the bed, there is a fan that blows salt all around you.  You are completely surrounded and it feels so cool.  While you’re lying down, you can put headphones on and listen to music that helps you get into a zone and meditate.  During the time I was in the tube, I shut my eyes and completely took in everything that was happening around me.  The salt was blowing, I listened to the music and let my mind wander.  Let me tell you, it was the best meditation session I’ve ever had.  When the session ended, I felt an inner sense of calm…and my lips tasted like I had been at the beach all day!  It is definitely something you have to experience yourself.

When we got home, I started to research the benefits of Himalayan salt. I always knew that a salt lamp will put negative ions out into the air and add a sense of balance to the area you have the lamp.  But what else does it do?

Himalayan salt improves respiration.  I can hear all my fellow asthmatics shouting “Woo-Hoo!” now!  The salt will help clear out sinus infections and can loosen mucus in the nasal cavities.  I can testify that the salt really does improve your breathing.  When I was done with my treatment, the congestion in my nose was almost completely gone.

The salt can also stimulate circulation.  Improving circulation can help the blood flow a bit more and will relax your muscles.  Dr. Oz even recommends mixing a bit with coconut oil and an essential oil and using it as a scrub in the shower.  It’s so soothing!

It purifies the air.  This I knew.  I have one in my bedroom and it helps me sleep so well.  The lamp I have attracts air pollutants and takes them out of the air.  The salt absorbs those pollutants so they don’t affect my health as much as they normally would.  Fantastic!

Himalayan salt affects you internally too.  It has more vitamins and minerals than other salts, like table salt or sea salt.  We use it in our cooking when a recipe calls for salt because we want better options.

Who knew it would lying in a salt bed would be so good?  Unfortunately I won’t have a chance to go back to Salt of the Earth, but I am definitely going to find a place when I got home.  Think of the possibilities!  I’ll be calling my girls to go with me!  Who wants to come?

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Look Great…Save Money!

One of the ways we stay healthy is through our financial situation.  And clothes take up a big portion of most people’s budgets.  That portion of the budget doesn’t only include ourselves, but our families too!  According to a study done by the University of Michigan, parents can spend anywhere from $300 – over $1000 per year for the children’s clothing.  And the study didn’t even include how much the parents spent on themselves!  Can you believe that?  Total crazy talk!

But how can you reduce that spend?  There are few ways.

  1. Be more conscious about where you spend the money. – Instead of going to the high-priced retailers,  go to the local thrift store.  You can still get some of the best brands in good shape for a lot less price.  And just a wash before wear is all you need before adding the piece to your wardrobe.
  2. Do a clothing exchange. – I lived on hand-me-downs.  When I was a kid, pretty much all my clothes came from my older cousins.  And who I was I to care?  I was dressed.  And yes, I was very picky and the wannabe fashionista that I am today.  So set this up with the other people in your neighborhood and grab your kids a new outfit for school.  Who knows, you could even snag a dress for date night!
  3. Shop online. – It’s totally the wave of the future and some of the best retailers are heading in that direction…including thrift stores.  One of my favorite online thrift stores is Thred Up.  It’s owned by Amazon (who I love) and the prices are low, in some cases up to 90% off!  There are name brands and even pieces with the tags ripped off, which drives the price down.  Be sure to check the listing when shopping because it will tell you what quality the piece is in.  Here are a few other online retailers you might like too.

So what’s the moral to my story?  You and your family can totally look great, without spending a fortune.  And think of how much better you’ll feel when you find that amazing leather jacket in the thrift store and you only pay half the cost?  Shopping or swapping clothes is just one way to make your wallet feel financially healthy.

Now tell me…what was the best clothing or accessory you snagged at a discounted price?

It’s All About Balance!

You know I’m all about balance, right?  Well, that even includes having a little fun every now and then.  And that includes having a drink with some friends.

In Massachusetts, where I’m located, we do not have Happy Hour but I know a lot of my followers in other states do.  So what does that mean for you and your buddies?  It means going out, having a few drinks and maybe even some food.  But how can you still go and stay on track with your lifestyle?  Here are a few tips to help you.

Tip #1 – Be picky

If you’re going to go, be picky!  Read what’s on the menu and think about what ingredients may be used in the recipe.  And if there’s ingredients on the menu that you see and like, but there isn’t a meal made with them, ask if you can have something created for you.  Some restaurants may be willing to make an exception.

Tip #2 – Choose a healthier cocktail

There’s always the good ole beer, but what about something a little different.  The Lemon Thyme Cocktail by Laura Silverman seems perfect!  Herbs can spice up your cocktail just like this one and where the thyme helps you boost your immunity, you can feel a little easier drinking it.

Tip #3 – Eat before you go

If you eat a healthy dinner before you head off with your friends, you’ll be less likely to crave those potato skins on the menu.  Have something filling, like chicken breast and steamed veggies or a kale salad packed with tuna and berries.  Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something you like and something you know will keep the cravings at bay.

If you’re going to be doing the Happy Hour at home, you can make the food and drink yourself, which can be even better.  Choose healthier ingredients in the food, organic if you can, and make things with lots of color because it will be visually appealing, which is always fun.  And for the drinks, choose beverages made from locally-sourced ingredients.  They might be higher cost, but the product quality is so much better.

And remember, don’t feel guilty about having a little fun.  It is all about balance and enjoying your life while maintaining a happy, healthy lifestyle.  Now go out there and live a little…just a little, though. 🙂

It’s Ok to Say No

Sometimes it’s ok to say no.  Sometimes you feel like you have to say no and sometimes you feel like you can’t say no.  But saying no can be good for your health.

Facing burnout is a very real thing.  And it can be very damaging for your mind and our body.  In a past post, I wrote about the differences between between America and other countries when it comes to stress.  What was interesting to me was that other countries seem to have very different lifestyles.  They have more time off, they actually eat lunch without looking at a computer screen and they eat very differently.  All of this adds up to a healthier lifestyle.  But what I did not see in any of my research was information on saying no.

Saying no is hard.  It’s not a fun thing to do.  You might have FOMO (fear of missing out) when you say no.  But it’s something that, if done regularly and mindfully, will help you live a life that has much lower stress levels.  This year has been my year of saying no.  Yup, it’s true.  Last year was my year of saying yes and it caused a lot of issues.  I learned in April that I had to start saying no or I would be burnout almost all the time.  Since I started, I’ve learned a few things.  I’ve learned that you might upset people, that you might lose a friend or two, that you might cause a riff with your family and that you might feel guilty.  But I also learned that saying no can be freeing.  Because saying no has helped me live with less stress, I’ve come up with some tips to help you feel ok with saying no.

1. Remember what YOU want!

By keeping your priorities in mind, you won’t have that guilt surrounding saying no.  If you have an event to go to or a project to work on or even just need to do laundry and get an invite, don’t feel bad saying no.  Because you’re saying no in order to make room for your own personal yes.

2. Don’t be afraid

For most people, we are afraid to say no because we don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings or we don’t want to look like we’re a bad person.  Sometimes we have to do what scares us most in order to feel ourselves.  Saying no might be something that scares you so much, but by saying it more and more, it will become easier.

3. Ask yourself “What am I saying no to?”

By asking this question, you’ll be able to get down to the nitty gritty of what you’ve been asked to do or invited to.  You’ll figure out if it’s really important to you to say yes or if you can live with saying no.  And you’ll learn what is really important to you.

4. Know that you’ll find your tribe

By saying no, you actually find out not only what’s import in your life, but you’ll also find out who is important in your life.  When you say no, you may find you offend people or make people mad.  Most of the time, they’re mad because they don’t understand your situation.  Those that you say no to but still are ok with it won’t be mad because they do understand.  And you will find out, those people are in your tribe.

5. Fake it until you make it

In the beginning, saying no is going to be hard.  It’s not easy because you’re not used to it.  You’re not confident with using the word no.  I say fake it until you make it!  And this goes for anything.  If you’re not comfortable, do it anyway.  If you’re scared, do it anyway!  The more you try something, the more it will become easier.

Trust me, saying no is not easy.  I’ve said this a number of times already, but it’s true!  Saying no is something that is scary, but it can also be very freeing too.  Saying no can help you with a lot of things.  So here’s my challenge.

I dare you to say no at least 7 times in the next week – one for each day of the week.  

Yup, at least 7 times.  Next Sunday do a self-check.  How did you do?  If you only said no 5 times, don’t beat yourself up.  Heck, if you only said no 3 times, definitely don’t beat yourself up.  But continue the practice and don’t give up.  Make sure to get back to me next week on your challenge.  I want to hear all about it!